Why is it that on a show like the Bachelorette 25 men will take time out of their lives to all go compete for ONE woman? They know who she is and what she looks like since she was on a show already….and they’re willing to pack their bags and fly across the country for a chance to win her heart?. Yes, I can agree the DeAnna is gorgeous, funny, smart, easy-going, and enchanting. But, how many women did they ALREADY know in their lives that were just as attractive?

Why is it that when a man in the “real world” finds a gorgeous, funny, smart, easy-going and enchanting woman, and they start dating, soon they don’t even want to work at the relationship anymore? For instance, boy and girl meet and she is just as amazing and deserving as any ABC Bachelorette and he knows this. Soon they are dating and have been together for 6 months…then 9 months…then a year and a half…and all of a sudden, he stops trying. He doesn’t compliment her anymore, he doesn’t care if he hurts her feelings, he doesn’t buy her any new gifts, he doesn’t get butterflies when she holds his hand, etc. So the real question is, if ANY of these gorgeous, well-deserving women went on the bachelorette, would they also have hundreds of people writing into the show wanting a chance to meet her? And what would those old-boyfriends think who stopped caring about what she deserved and how amazing she was?

I guess the problem that I have is ALL the guys on the bachelorette just couldn’t wait to meet DeAnna and heal her broken heart after the last show. They all knew she was the bachelorette and couldn’t wait to date her. ALL OF THEM. In “real life”, there are millions of ladies throughout America that are just as “amazing” as DeAnna and perhaps more so. But why is it then that they’re still single? Or that they’ve been broken up with more times then they care to admit? Or that they’re in crappy relationships? Do guys only get interested in the Bachelorette because of the TV hype? Do they enjoy the competition for a woman’s heart, instead of being solely interested in the woman herself? Is it all about the chase, and that’s why in real life once the guy catches the girl and is in a serious relationship with her, he kind of stops trying?

I admit that there are probably many exceptions to the rule….yet, when women watch the Bachelorette they inevitably wonder if they were on the show, would they have 25 men all is interested in dating them as they are in DeAnna?  And if so, would it be everything they dreamed it? Women, watching this ABC reality show, will undoubtedly wonder what it would be like to have 25 guys competing for your attention because they believe that you are so amazing, and so beautiful, that you deserve the whole world and more. 

In our day-to-day real lives, where we don’t live in huge mansions and get to go on dream fantasy dates with 5 different men, women have to wonder these things. Most women would probably say that they believe they have a lot to offer, but its true that they probably do. But my real confusion is this: In our daily, routine lives, if there is a stunning, kind-hearted, and hilarious girl and one guy is lucky enough to meet her and date her, why do they then suddenly give up as if they have accomplished there goal instead of only starting it? 

I guess some guy’s mentality is that, “Well, I found her, I courted her, and now I’m dating her. I’m keeping off the market of meeting any other guy; I already have her, so the journey has ended.”

WRONG!

Once you actually start dating the girl, that is when the journey begins. I think society has gotten men in this mentality that once they “catch” the girl in the relationship, their work there is done. Incorrect. Once you are actually dating the girl, this is where the journey begins. This is where men should start there work and their effort so that they can hold on to their own little Bachelorette. And maybe because our society is so taken with the chase, that is why the Bachelorette is so supremely popular. What girl wouldn’t want  25 wonderful men chasing after them?